So, uh, anyone know anything about moving to Italy? There’s this Ph.D. programme I stumbled upon today that I can’t stop staring at…
2: How long have you known your best friend? We met in the summer of 2006.
6: Do you wish to travel a lot? Absolutely. I love to travel. I’m hoping sometime in the next year or two my partner and I will be able to take this great dream vacation I’m planning to see his family in London, then to Paris, 6 days in Spain, plus another side trip from London up to Dublin and Galway- Anyway. Yes. If I had spare money, it would all go to travel.
10: Do you like the way that you grew up? That’s a complicated question for me. I honestly believe my parents did the best for me that any two parents could…but I spent most of my childhood miserable. I was a weirdo in a tiny town with serious depression issues, so it didn’t go well.
11: Do you like your siblings? Why or why not? I have one sibling, a younger brother, and we get along fine.
12: How did you meet your best friend and why did you become friends? We met via LJ, and it drives us both crazy that we can’ remember how exactly we met, but I do remember that the first post we bonded over involved me whining about someone saying I wasn’t “gay enough”, complete with numerous Gilmore Girls and QAF references.
15: Things about someone that you find attractive? Eyes. Arms. Package. In terms of just pure physical attraction.
21: Do you think you’d make a good parent? God no. I have no patience and am incredibly particular about stuff.
33: Why did your last relationship end? He was super clingy. As in we had been dating less than a month and he was planning marriage.
41: When was the last time you got really really happy and why? I honestly don’t know.
46: Do you have a bucket list? Not really. There are things I know I want to do, but it’s not a formal list or anything and it’s pretty vague - places I’d like to go, careers I’d rather have, but that’s the extent of it.
50: 5 random facts about yourself: I’ve worn glasses since I was 11, except for the year I got contacts that I couldn’t actually wear because they hurt so I had to go without seeing and swear to my mom I was wearing them. I’m currently discovering/obsessed with Criminal Minds. I learned to knit at the world’s tamest college Christmas party and it was the best holiday fest ever. No one in my family knows I’m married (5 years next week) because they wouldn’t understand. I’m learning to do blackwork because I want to join the SCA but am far too antisocial to actually go to anything.
- 1: What is your name and does it mean anything?
- 2: How long have you known your best friend?
- 3: What position do you normally sleep in?
- 4: Were you a part of any “clique” in high school?
- 5: Who was your favorite teacher in high school and why?
- 6: Do you wish to travel a lot?
- 7: Did you participate in any sports while in school?
- 8: Show a sample of your handwriting:
- 9: Have you ever given blood?
- 10: Do you like the way that you grew up?
- 11: Do you like your siblings? Why or why not?
- 12: How did you meet your best friend and why did you become friends?
- 13: Name one movie that made you cry.
- 14: Do you prefer to read poetry, write poetry, or neither?
- 15: Things about someone that you find attractive?
- 16: What song are you currently listening to?
- 17: Have you ever broken a bone? If so, how?
- 18: A random memory from you childhood:
- 19: Where did you grow up?
- 20: What was the last thing you watched on tv?
- 21: Do you think you’d make a good parent?
- 22: Would you like to meet any of your Tumblr friends in person?
- 22: What was the last dream you remember having?
- 23: When is your birthday?
- 24: How many pillows do you sleep with?
- 25: Do you wear glasses? If so, how long have you been wearing glasses?
- 26: What color is your hair?
- 27: Name 5 facts about your appearance:
- 28: What is your favorite soda?
- 29: What is a strange talent that you have?
- 30: How’s the weather right now?
- 31: Why did one of your friendships end?
- 32: Who do you miss right now?
- 33: Why did your last relationship end?
- 34: Are you still figuring out who you are?
- 35: Have you ever been admitted to a hospital? Why?
- 36: What is your favorite restaurant?
- 37: What is word that you always seem to spell wrong?
- 38: Would ever adopt kids?
- 39: What is your favorite kind of pizza?
- 40: What was your first thought when you woke up this morning?
- 41: When was the last time you got really really happy and why?
- 42: What’s the strangest thing you’ve ever eaten?
- 43: How do you start a conversation?
- 44: What’s a band you’ve been obsessed with lately?
- 45: Do you come from a family “of money?”
- 46: Do you have a bucket list?
- 47: What is your favorite series of books?
- 48: When was the last time you laughed so hard your stomach hurt?
- 49: Where do you go when you’re sad?
- 50: 5 random facts about yourself:
1. White terrorists are called “gunmen.” What does that even mean? A person with a gun? Wouldn’t that be, like, everyone in the US? Other terrorists are called, like, “terrorists.”
2. White terrorists are “troubled loners.” Other terrorists are always suspected of being part of a global plot, even when they are obviously troubled loners.
3. Doing a study on the danger of white terrorists at the Department of Homeland Security will get you sidelined by angry white Congressmen. Doing studies on other kinds of terrorists is a guaranteed promotion.
4. The family of a white terrorist is interviewed, weeping as they wonder where he went wrong. The families of other terrorists are almost never interviewed.
5. White terrorists are part of a “fringe.” Other terrorists are apparently mainstream.
6. White terrorists are random events, like tornadoes. Other terrorists are long-running conspiracies.
7. White terrorists are never called “white.” But other terrorists are given ethnic affiliations.
8. Nobody thinks white terrorists are typical of white people. But other terrorists are considered paragons of their societies.
9. White terrorists are alcoholics, addicts or mentally ill. Other terrorists are apparently clean-living and perfectly sane.
10. There is nothing you can do about white terrorists. Gun control won’t stop them. No policy you could make, no government program, could possibly have an impact on them. But hundreds of billions of dollars must be spent on police and on the Department of Defense, and on TSA, which must virtually strip search 60 million people a year, to deal with other terrorists.” —
Juan Cole, 08/09/2012
Juan Cole actually wrote this 4 days after a white terrorist, yes, terrorist, murdered 6 and injured 4 people at a Sikh gurdwara in Wisconsin. The terrorist who committed said crime spoke of an impending “racial holy war” beforehand and was a member of white supremacist/neo-Nazi hate groups.
See also: The religion of white terrorists is never, ever mentioned, even if their belief system is what spurred them to commit their terrorist act. For that matter, the political and ideological affiliations of white terrorists is considered irrelevant. Other terrorists are deemed representative of a religion and political ideology even where they did not take any action to declare their reasons for committing their terrorist act.
Not only everything beautifully stated above, but he’s the type of performer who gets into the emotion of the story through song, which isn’t a musical style that works well on an album. If at some point he wanted to do Broadway (and could find a role that suited him which most currently don’t), I think he would do that over a solo album any day of the week. But mostly I just agree with the rest of it, especially in regards to breaking out of the Kurt/self-penned box.
i have no problem with pointing out that anyone of any gender can be an abuser, rapist, pedophile etc because that’s absolutely true.
but the problem with always emphasizing “yes but it happens to everyone, not just women (or people of colour, or trans* people, etc)!” is that it depoliticizes the issue.
violence is not an accident, it is reflective of social power relations that permeate society at every level
It doesn’t “depoliticize the issue.” It partially dismantles the argument you’re trying to make. There’s a difference.
Are rape and abuse about power and domination of the target? In 95% of cases, yes. (That 5% is reserved for cases where the perpetrator genuinely doesn’t know what they’re doing is wrong and would indeed stop if asked: they honestly believe consent has been given, most often in the category of “They’re both (equally) pretty drunk (but participating).”) But when a person says that all rape comes from men being taught they have all the power and that women are essentially their property that they can grab and have sex with at any time they (the men) want, that only accounts for one type of assault. Pointing out that assault happens in other permutations, including by individuals without privilege and to people other than women, punctures that theory of violence.
Because if it’s only about men being taught they are entitled to women, how does that explain female pedophiles? Or a man who rapes another man - either where the assailant is gay himself, or where he’s “punishing” the target? Or the female friend of mine who was raped by her then-girlfriend? Clearly none of these situations fit into the paradigm of “men are taught that women are theirs to have sex with whenever they want,” which means there has to be some other reason in addition to the one put forth above.
Violence is not an accident. But violence is also not something you can apply a one-size-fits-all explanation to.
Just how many Michigan shirts can one boy wear in a day?
can we just take a moment to imagine little cute six-year-old hermione reading matilda
and peering into this book about a smart, bookish girl who could move things with her mind
and then can you imagine her concentrating very hard on the books on the bookshelf and slowly, slowly, getting them to move
OH MY GOD
They’re fucking holding hands walking over a bridge in Paris - could there be a cuter, more romantic thing?
(Yeah, I know, I hate that there’s paparazzi stuff out there at all, but a) at least this one was halfway respectful, as far as things go, and b) I just can’t with these two. Good for them!)
I should know by now not to venture onto tumblr when I’m having a bad night. Because next thing you know, I’m fighting the urge to scream at everyone because people are literally dying for their orientation, right now, in the United States, and what apparently matters is that a straight guy’s girlfriend of literally like 3 years was finally called his girlfriend in a random photo caption. Because on a night when I’m legit trying to find any way out of this damned country because I’m scared of the city I thought would finally be safe, that’s just going to lead to bad, bad fights.
So I’m just gonna go to bed now and probably blacklist some topics in coming days.
The sad part is that the people on my dash are quality, so they’re not the ones wanking. The people I follow are much more periphery, but even the secondhand wanking is too much for me to not snap and start thirdhand meta-wank right now…and no one wants that.
I’ve decided we need a reality show for our SOs. We should call it “Real Spouses of Tumblr” and here’s the season 1 cast:
Kyle (aka Mr. Firesnaps)
Mr. Venezuelan (aka Javier, aka Jimmy’s boy toy)
Episode #1: “What the shit is Tumblr?” In which Kyle has to explain this insanity to everyone else because he’s the only one who’s experienced it firsthand.
Can my husband join this cast?
I’m so baffled by the idea of people’s husbands not also being on tumblr. Now, my husband/partner/’unnaturally close roommate’ and I maintain completely separate tumblr lives; there are like 2 people who know both our screennames, and we keep it that way, but it means that while I’m over here yelling at people in one fandom, he’s just across the bed snarking a people in another fandom.
And squeeing over kittens. His dash has a lot more cute baby animals than mine does. But also more porn, so it evens out really.
If you think people aren’t dating until the word boyfriend/girlfriend is used in conjunction with them in a random post-awards-show photo, then as far as your definition goes pretty much any gay celebrity will be single forever.
…And the one gay actor who actually did play a gay character - an openly, statedly, we’re going to deal with it kind of gay character - didn’t win. Of freaking course.